Moot - to you my deepest sympathies also, isn't life cruel sometimes?, but those who have not had the experiences we have can have no conception of the hurt of the inane words they choose to pour forth without thinking first.
When it is our Health Minister, it only compounds the fact that he was totally inoffensive and does not deserve to hold his post. Let us hope that common decency prevails over the no-confidence vote, and none of this sycopantic 'lets look after one of our own nonsense'.
You are more newly bereaved than I, but, and I know it is probably no consolation, although the pain NEVER goes away it changes and if you can do something positive in the future thinking of your son, it does help a bit (unless some-one like JP brings it all back afresh).
My thoughts are with you.